You don’t get pregnant unless you have sex! Let’s start there. God made sex and he made it to be wonderful. But He also made it to be enjoyed in the sanctity of marriage, or did He? The topic today is looking at this issue from three perspectives:
- What does the Bible say about teen sex?
- What should I do if I am pregnant?
- How to deal with your child’s pregnancy?
Let’s start with what the Bible says about sex before marriage. I hear this said often:
If we love one another, and if we take precautions, what is the harm? Even if sex before marriage is a sin, so is lying and we do that all the time. So what’s the big deal?
Then I have heard other people say:
My parents lived together before they were married. And Christians are all doing it today anyway.
There are many reasons we give to justify why we want to have sex in our teens. After all God created us as sexual beings and sexual awareness starts with puberty. So we all come face to face with these issues at around 13 or 14 anyway, some even younger than that. Can I first say that the reason to do something because “everyone else is doing it is lame”. That’s no reason to have sex.
The Bible does actually address this topic and the Bible uses the word “fornication”. Paul said, “Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body, but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body” I Corinthians 6:18. So Paul says clearly that sex outside of marriage is a sin against your own body. In I Corinthians 7:2 paul says, “Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife and every woman have her own husband”.
Now I have already said that we are all tempted to have sex. Temptation itself is not a sin. However, the Bible is clear – having sex outside of marriage is Sin.
Now some people may stop reading at this point because they don’t want to hear about sin. We usually like to keep our “sins” out of the light. Since God made sex to be something beautiful between a husband and a wife, we need to remember God made sex and He said it was “good”. But it was designed to bind two people together in a deeply spiritual way. It is like tying two souls together. The problem with sex outside of marriage is it literally ties two souls together, when they are not in a state that is blessed by God. Then this causes guilt, regret and other feelings of unhappiness – these feelings usually come about weeks or months later.
The next thing is that if you have sex with your boyfriend/girlfriend and the relationship ends some time later, then the chances of you have sex with your next partner are exceptionally high. Then at this point you are “easy” – a label usually reserved for girls. Boys will brag about their conquests, and of course if things go wrong, the girl ends up pregnant. The time you are likely to really regret it is one day when you meet the person you are to marry. You are no longer able to give them your fist and your best. You can only give them what’s left after everyone else has had some.
God hates sin! The Bible is clear so if yo are having sex before marriage God is not pleased. Does that mean God hates you? Not at all. Does that mean God will punish you? Not at all. God loves you. In fact He adores you and he even sent Jesus to show God’s love by dying for you. You can have one of two responses at this point – you can respond by saying “OK, I really didn’t know I was doing anything wrong in God’s eyes. Now that I know I am going to change my behaviour and stop.” Or you can respond by saying “that’s just too bad. We all sin, and if God loves me anyway, why not just carry on.” Sin has consequences and even if yo love and follow Jesus, when you sin, it will somehow come back to bite you. That’s why God wants to protect us from sin.
Sadly some girls truly believe that if they don’t have sex with their boyfriend, then he will dump her. How sad if that is what is keeping you together? Do you really want to be with someone like that? You can change. God can turn you story around.
So what should I do if I fall pregnant?
check back tomorrow as I continue.