17 year old Christian & still a virgin? 3

Are you still a virgin?

If you are a Christian girl of 17, and the answer to the question is “Yes” then you are probably in the minority. How sad that what God made to be pure and special and to be a gift to your husband, has been given away cheaply, to some guy who really was more interested in sex than in you. At the time it may not have seemed that way, but boys are run by their hormones, as much if not even more than girls. Here are some common responses on this topic:

  • Am I Still VirginSo what’s the big deal? Everyone sleeps with their boyfriend. You have to try before you buy!
  • Someone else asks the question, why buy the cow if you can get the cream for free?
  • What is so special about being a virgin? Surely you want to be a little experienced by the time you are married?
  • If I really love my boyfriend, why not?
  • I could lose my boyfriend if I don’t sleep with him
  • In God’s eyes we are married, so why do we need a piece of paper to make it official?

I know most of the above responses are written with the assumption that all boys want is sex, and that it is always the girl who is more under pressure than the boy. Parents of boys seem to be less concerned when their sons sleep around than parents of girls. Is this just the society we live in?

From a Christian perspective, which is what this blog is all about, virginity is a lot more than just not having sex before you are married. I have previously written on what the Bible says about sex before marriage – the Bible calls it fornication. It is unacceptable to God. Our bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit 1 Corinthians 6:19. This means we have to look after our bodies as temples of God. Our bodies are home to God, the Holy Spirit. When you sleep with your partner, God does not step out the room. He is with you. God wants us to be holy, even as He is holy 1 Peter 1:16.

Apart from God’s instruction to live holy lives, we also must remember God is full of grace and mercy. God is full of love and forgiveness. Sexual sin is forgivable. God says we need to confess our sins, and turn from them and go in a new direction and then He will forgive us. If you have already lost you virginity, God can still make you a precious and beautiful bride. After all, the Bible speaks about the us the church as being the bride of Christ, and when we see Jesus at the marriage supper of the lamb, we will be perfect and spotless. That is not because the church is great or special, but because God washes away our sin in the blood of Jesus.

If you never knew about all this before, and after reading this you are convicted to stop sleeping with your boyfriend or girlfriend, commit it to God and ask Him to give you the strength. Remember the devil wants you to sin as often as possible, and so he won’t be happy to let you just walk away from sexual habits. But He will give you strength if you really mean it.

3 thoughts on “17 year old Christian & still a virgin?

  1. Reply praise Feb 21,2014 1:28 am

    How bout those who would have loved to stay pure but had no choice (situations of rape or areas where someone else pays yo school fees/tuition and in return thats the sacrifice they want..or was once in a deep relationship with approval but after one day everything changed?) what answers or questions do u give to that kind of person?

  2. Reply praise Feb 21,2014 1:31 am

    and not to mention i fall under one of the above categories…guilt killing me but i really had no choice..well not enough room for me to choose….not that it was my fault that it had to happen at such an early age (14) but i thought God had neglected me wen it happened….the feeling of not knowing what someone is doing to u

  3. Reply Passion Feb 21,2014 3:57 am

    Dear Praise,

    I am so sorry to hear of this sad situation. God never intended that for you, and there are no simple answers to give here. Bad and terrible things can happen to good people, and to Christians. We are not immune from suffering, and coming to know God is not a guarantee that no bad things will ever happen to you.

    Being forced into some sexual activity is never God’s plan for anyone. It is the devil who is so intent on destroying, killing and robbing from us, that he causes us harm through the sin of other people. I am sad this happened to you. I know the devastation that can happen to a young girl from rape and what happens to a family, and it is very difficult to handle.

    God never abandoned you! This I do know because Go promises that ” I will never leave you nor forsake you”. Also remember David in Psalm 23, where he says ” even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, you comfort me, your rod and your staff, they comfort me. Go does not hold this to your account and yo never did anything wrong, even if the devil tries to make you guilty. James talks about God as being a good Father, who gives us good gifts. The bad things that happened to you were not from God. Trust God to restore you every day, and he will.

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