Are you still a virgin?
If you are a Christian girl of 17, and the answer to the question is “Yes” then you are probably in the minority. How sad that what God made to be pure and special and to be a gift to your husband, has been given away cheaply, to some guy who really was more interested in sex than in you. At the time it may not have seemed that way, but boys are run by their hormones, as much if not even more than girls. Here are some common responses on this topic:
- So what’s the big deal? Everyone sleeps with their boyfriend. You have to try before you buy!
- Someone else asks the question, why buy the cow if you can get the cream for free?
- What is so special about being a virgin? Surely you want to be a little experienced by the time you are married?
- If I really love my boyfriend, why not?
- I could lose my boyfriend if I don’t sleep with him
- In God’s eyes we are married, so why do we need a piece of paper to make it official?
I know most of the above responses are written with the assumption that all boys want is sex, and that it is always the girl who is more under pressure than the boy. Parents of boys seem to be less concerned when their sons sleep around than parents of girls. Is this just the society we live in?
From a Christian perspective, which is what this blog is all about, virginity is a lot more than just not having sex before you are married. I have previously written on what the Bible says about sex before marriage – the Bible calls it fornication. It is unacceptable to God. Our bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit 1 Corinthians 6:19. This means we have to look after our bodies as temples of God. Our bodies are home to God, the Holy Spirit. When you sleep with your partner, God does not step out the room. He is with you. God wants us to be holy, even as He is holy 1 Peter 1:16.
Apart from God’s instruction to live holy lives, we also must remember God is full of grace and mercy. God is full of love and forgiveness. Sexual sin is forgivable. God says we need to confess our sins, and turn from them and go in a new direction and then He will forgive us. If you have already lost you virginity, God can still make you a precious and beautiful bride. After all, the Bible speaks about the us the church as being the bride of Christ, and when we see Jesus at the marriage supper of the lamb, we will be perfect and spotless. That is not because the church is great or special, but because God washes away our sin in the blood of Jesus.
If you never knew about all this before, and after reading this you are convicted to stop sleeping with your boyfriend or girlfriend, commit it to God and ask Him to give you the strength. Remember the devil wants you to sin as often as possible, and so he won’t be happy to let you just walk away from sexual habits. But He will give you strength if you really mean it.